“Out beyond ideas of wrong and right, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” Rumi
Sometimes judgements and arguments and the insistence that we are “right,” weigh us down. They lead nowhere.
Other times, especially if this is a war with the self, the “right” and “wrong” is pure resistance to whatever you want or how things are, or even frustration with how you are.
So what’s the release? Where is this “field”?
I cannot tell you where but I can tell you “how.”
The how is in kindness and compassion, the release comes from surrender or from understanding, a deep acceptance.
This is not easy.
We’ve been culturally conditioned that if we don’t like it, change it. That advice is good but it is awful if what we don’t like seems insurmountable or impossible to change.
Chinese medicine has a different way of looking at the world.
Closely connected to observing nature, what replaces wrong or right is, well, similar to seeing that the day is “sunny” or “wet.” And that’s it. No follow through of “awful rain” or “good sunshine.”
It is what it is.
And here we are, the field that Rumi spoke of.
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I’ll repeat this until I die:
The Chinese intently observed nature and made this the foundation for their medicine.
These principles are the meaning of life. Yup. You read that correctly. In entire seriousness I mean it. So I said that it was based of nature, and nature, well, it changes shape and form across time. Have you heard of the Einstein quote that energy is never lost, it changes? That’s one way of explaining it. The different stages of energy as it changes are called different things and they have different qualities.
Imagine a clock.
At six we have the “element” Water. It is to do with winter, the embryo in the womb, potential, the unseen, the unexpected, creativity, being, floating, the abyss, death, the ancestors, the other side, intuition, chaos, destruction (flooding), bravery, stubbornness. The emotion associated with water is fear, not anxiety or worry, but a paralysing deep terror.
At eight we have the element Wood. It is do with springtime, the child rushing around, it transforms the dreams of water into matter, so it has associations with plans, organisation, order, growth, but as growth can be blocked (like plants in spring blocked by frozen soil) its emotion is anger, exasperation, frustration, pressure. Also, doing is associated with this element, action, impatience, as well as thunder, the wind, the warrior, competitiveness, shame, problem solving, judgement. Wood features are blocky, square – so strong jawline, indented temples, square hairline, strong brow bone, strong eyebrows.
At midday we have the element Fire. It is do with summer, the prime of your life, fun, thrills, wit, flippancy, emotions, love, the open heart – but also the vulnerability of the heart – also quickness, flirtation, scorching remarks, gossip, creativity of a quick spur of the moment kind, drama queen. Everything in full bloom. The emotion associated with Fire is over-excitement, exuberance, which can lead to being scattered, erratic, anxious. At the most extreme, panic attacks. Fire features are pointed, pricks and tips of things, curls (esp. red and curly), dimples.
At two we have the element Earth. It is to with early autumn, harvest, middle age, kindness, patience, friendliness, the mother, grounded, neediness, self pitying, overprotective, over supportive, generosity, modesty, dependency, feeding. The emotion associated with Earth is worry (as they care so much and are other focused.) Earthy features are cushy, thick and soft, an overall plumpness.
At five we have the element Metal. It is to do with late autumn, old age, grief, sorrow, sensitivity, arrogance, criticism (of self and others), pride, idealism, visionary, heaven, the sacred, having high standards, ethereality, graciousness, authenticity, inflexibility, perfectionism, detail focused, the father. The emotion associated with Metal is grief, the issue of revisiting loss time and time again, only to relive it and not move forward. Anxiety is also associated with Metal (different from Fire) as it’s a worry to get things “right” and “perfect.” Metal features are bony and sculpted – prominent nose, regal posture, paleness, concave lower cheeks, prominent upper cheeks, a fine bone structure.
Of course this is so very simplistic. I’ve tailored it to reflect personality, but you can apply this is anything! A meal – water, thinking about the meal, dreaming it. Wood, doing it, planning it, buying ingredients. Fire, cooking it! Earth, feeding time and Metal clearing it away. It can be applied to sexual encounters, stories, your day at work, the years! Anything!
I don’t want to say what features are associated with each element, which eyebrows are fiery, which nose is earthy, because that’s an entire blog in itself. Rather, I hope, that this is background enough.
If you’re eagle eyed you’ll have noticed that I have all five elements “behind” every logo.
More on the morrow.
I’ve promised to get into the “stuff” behind Chinese Face reading, and I will. This is a second post in a series dedicated to this topic.
Today I’m not going to discuss faces or face reading.
I’m going to talk about language.
There’s a reason why a western audience is more skeptical about acupuncture or Buddhism or Reiki or meditation. And it’s a very simple answer.
A language is simply a way of structuring reality, taking the formless unspoken and making it formed and spoken.
Everywhere in the world has a different approach.
In Western languages we prefer our sentences as subject object verb. Subject object and verb.
It’s a very direct approach isn’t?
Our medical treatments are in turn direct. If we have a cold the doctor will treat it with a cold medicine. Chemotherapy in the form of gamma rays will be directed at the tumor.
For the most part, and I can only speak of English culture, because of this direct sentence structure much stress and importance is placed on the tangible and external world. You may have heard at some point “it’s all in your head” as way to disregard your emotions.
Another side effect of this sentence structure is that it encourages us to think in opposites, duality.
When you read the above paragraph you might have been expecting that somewhere in this article I will write “Eastern culture values the intangible and internal” since I wrote the opposite for Western culture.
I make no claims to know Chinese or any other Eastern languages, but I know some characters of ancient Chinese.
One thing I find striking is this: they communicate in characters. Pictures.
In ancient Chinese the character for “sun” was a circle with a dot in the middle. Mountain was three small triangles growing out of a line.
To indicate a forest you’d draw the character for tree three times.
To indicate a prisoner you’d draw the character for man and then draw a box around it.
A picture speaks a thousand words, right?
If a language speaks in pictures, is it any wonder that the culture and it’s thinking will produce something entirely different?
There won’t be a person alive who doesn’t know that sometimes, the direct approach misses out.
Another thought which is not in Western culture is that everything is interconnected and interdependent.
We know that the Earth depends on the Sun, we all do, for food, warmth, the seasons. A child depends on its’ parents.
Then maybe it should not be so surprising that the ancient Chinese had the minds to notice all the different links between us all and everything when they communicated in pictures?
Tomorrow I’ll expand on this point of language and link it to the Western tradition of face reading.
Foreheads for the most part indicate thinking style.
A straight forehead is someone who will think very much in lines. The best solution to any problem is the most rational and logical.
This is the forehead of the “warrior,” someone who comes into the world to see what’s wrong and fix it. As such when anyone is saying anything, their immediate thoughts are “what’s wrong with this?” and then “how can I fix it?”
To them they’re just helping, but to others it comes across as cynical and confrontational. They will not like it when someone says they have “hunch” or a “sense” of something. It’s too insubstantial for them.
Does this sound like you or someone you know?
Foreheads for the most part indicate thinking style.
A slanted forehead, like the one shown in the picture, is sometimes called a deal maker’s forehead.
This is someone who will make creative use of their logic, rather than relying on intuitive hunches. Often their solutions will break rules or social convention (they don’t have much of a care for it). So their solutions may rub others up the wrong way.
If an unforeseen issue hinders their original plan, that’s okay they’ll just amend and creatively solve again.
Over the years the wisdom in Chinese Face Reading became warped, from holistic and compassionate to cruel and judgemental.
Because of the abilities this forehead has, it became known in time as the mark of the criminal.
Does this sound like you or someone you know?
What does your forehead say about you?
A rounded forehead, like the one shown in this picture, shows someone who is very intuitive. How they answer or solve problems will be very creative and left field.
This does not mean they are illogical, it’s just that their right brain is stronger than their left.
One of their strengths will be their imagination. They will able to create complex fantasy worlds or have a hard time telling the difference between reality and the reality of their own creation. One of their challenges in life will be telling the difference between their intuitive mind and their imagination. Does this sound like you or someone you know?